Yes, we all know men like getting blow jobs, fantasize about threesomes, and generally just love sex and want it all the time. But let’s delve in a little deeper into what men really want in bed and wish women knew.
1. It’s All About The Attitude
Guys want to have sex with a woman who is actually into it. Eagerness and enthusiasm go a long way. A lot of women have the attitude that just letting a guy have sex with her is some kind of gift, and guys hate that.
If you are just going through the motions, or doing it out of obligation, as a favor, or because you want something in return, that’s a major turn off.
The ultimate turn on to a guy is being with a woman who is enjoying the sex just as much as he is.
2. Make Him Feel Wanted
Men have a strong need to be sexually wanted. Just telling a man “I want you” can do all kinds of things for his ego.
Letting him know how much you enjoy sex with him also works great. Try telling him, “I love having you inside me.” If you’re too shy to say that aloud, try texting him.
If you don’t want to be that direct, you can let him catch you staring at his butt or any other part of his body that turns you on. Perhaps even touch him more than usual, especially in naughty places.
Objectify him a little, lust after him, and let him know how much he turns you on. You’ll catch him off guard and make him feel like he’s so sexy you just can’t control yourself.
3. Initiate Once In A While
Traditionally, men are the ones who initiate sex. They’re wired that way as a result of their ancient hunter ancestors.
Most men love to take charge and are cool with initiating sex most of the time. But it can get old when he has to be the one to do it every time.
Remember how guys need to feel wanted? When you never initiate sex, your man might start to feel like you’re not attracted to him.
Whisper in his ear how badly you want him inside you, or stick you hand down his pants. If you really want to rock his world, wake him with a morning BJ.
However you decide to initiate sex, it’s guaranteed to make your guy happy because for once he doesn’t have to be the one to do it.
4. Take Control
Although men love to be in charge, they like to be dominated every once in a while too. It can get boring after a while to be the one who is always in control.
It drives a guy wild when a woman grabs him, pushes him down, and has her way with him. A woman who knows what she wants and goes after it is a huge turn on.
If you tend to let your man take control all the time, try turning the tables and taking the reins once in a while. Not only will your man be in for a surprise, but he’ll know without a doubt how much you want him.
5. Confidence Is Key
Confidence is the sexiest trait a woman can have. Whatever insecurities you have, remember that your man is with you because he’s attracted to you and wants to have sex with you.
A woman who can take her clothes off with confidence is much more attractive than a woman who asks her man to turn the lights off first. Men are visual creatures and get off on seeing you in all your naked glory.
If you are uncomfortable, try soft lighting that will hide any flaws you’re stressing over. But in all likelihood guys would never notice those little jiggles or that cellulite you’re so worried about. They’re just so thrilled to be there with you, naked!
6. Be Vocal
Guys love it when you let loose and get loud. A woman who can express herself in the bedroom is a huge turn on.
Whether it’s moaning and groaning or uninhibited screaming, they appreciate the feedback that whatever they’re doing is working. Guys need to know they’re doing a good job. They want to know that they’re driving you so wild that you can’t help but scream in ecstasy.
Throw in a little dirty talk and you’ll send him over the edge! Give him a filthy play-by-play or let him know what you want to do to him next.
7. Give Instructions
Every woman is different when it comes to what they like. Guys appreciate a little guidance on how to pleasure you, otherwise it’s a lot of trial and error on their part.
You are the one person who knows exactly what it takes to get you off, so help a guy out and give him some instructions to set him in the right direction. Don’t be shy about it!
Whether you guide him with sounds or words of encouragement when he’s on the right track, or flat out tell him what to do when he’s not, most guys will be thankful. If you want bonus points, get a little dirty when you’re telling him what you want him to do to you.
A woman who knows what she wants is a turn on. Plus, guys get a lot of sexual gratification from pleasing their partners. Anything you can do to help him please you is a win-win for both of you.
8. Worship Him
For men, sex is very much about feeding their egos. They want to feel desired, appreciated, and worshipped.
And this is why oral sex is so important to men. They are fixated on it so much because they want you to worship their cocks just as much as they do.
The key to giving a mind-blowing BJ is actually enjoying it. Having the power to send your man over the edge with a knee-buckling, thigh-quivering orgasm should make you feel sexy as hell.
Make eye-contact with your man and let him see how much pleasure it gives you to please him. You’ll make him feel like a rock star!
9. Be Adventurous
Men love women who are open to trying new things in the bedroom. Everyone has a different sexual appetite, so be adventurous and willing to try new flavors. It’s boring to do the same thing all the time anyways.
It’s also important not to make a guy feel bad about anything he wants to do. When you’re open to his fantasies, he’ll feel safe to express himself sexually and connected to you on a deeper level.
If you’re not comfortable with whatever it is he wants to do, that’s fine. Just don’t judge him for it or make him feel like a pervert. Negotiate and try to find something that works for both of you.
10. Don’t Fake It
Women usually mean well when they fake an orgasm. They don’t want to bruise their man’s ego so they just let him think he finished the job.
However, you’re actually giving positive reinforcement for something that didn’t work. If your man isn’t pleasing you, tell him how he can. Above all, your man really does want to please you and faking it doesn’t it allow him to be the best lover he can be.
If you know you aren’t going to come and you are ready to finish, you can just tell him. A direct instruction such as, “I want you to come now,” will let him know he’s free to let himself go without worrying about whether it’s been long enough for you.